Jun 10, 2010

Black Women according to Slim Thugga

Here is what rapper Slim Thug had to say about our women...


It’s hard to trust a Black woman [sometimes] because a lot of Black women’s mind frame is that the man gotta do everything for her, he gotta pay for this, he gotta pay for that, and if it ain’t about money then a lot of them ain’t fucking with him. If that’s what you’re here for then I don’t want to be with you. Most single Black women feel like they don’t want to settle for less. Their standards are too high right now. They have to understand that successful Black men are kind of extinct. We’re important. It’s hard to find us so Black women have to bow down and let it be known that they gotta start working hard; they gotta start cooking and being down for they man more. They can’t just be running around with their head up in the air and passing all of us.
My girl is Black and White. I guess the half White in her is where she still cooks and do all the shit that I say, so we make it. She just takes care of me and I like that. She don’t be begging and I don’t gotta buy her all this crazy ass shit. And she’s a smart girl too. She graduated from Columbia [University] and I like that about her so it’s cool. I’ve dated girls that will buy a $3,000 bag and don’t know how to pay it off on their credit cards. They walk around in these Louis Vuittons and red bottoms but they’re riding around in raggedy cars, so it’s just getting your priorities right.

I wholeheartedly AGREE with everything that Slim Thug is saying, so often black men are looked to be the provider (which I plan on being in my family) but women that we might see potential in play us to the left because we either don't make enough (college women should give us a break because EVERYONE is broke in college, and if he isn't it's probably his parents money) or we don't have the "status" that they are looking for. Most girls because they sure aren't women that I run into don't know the first thing about taking care of their man which is an important thing no matter how we define gender roles in today's society. They expect you to be Superman but they aren't even close to being Lois Lane

Let me run down the typical approach and responsibilities in a normal dating scenario as experienced by me:
  1. Notice the girl
  2. Catch the girls attention
  3. Approach
  4. Start the conversation
  5. keep her interested
  6. Ask for her information
  7. Make 1st initial contact
  8. decided when/where/how date will be setup
  9. Provide or figure out transportation to said date
  10. Pay for Date
  11. Hope/Pray she goes on another one with you...
Now where in these steps (not to say there aren't exceptions) does the woman have to really do anything? I personally will not go out with a girl again if she doesn't at least OFFER to pay on the first date, even though as a gentleman I would never let her, but still...

And by no means am I trying to berate, downplay, or subjugate my female counterparts, I love and plan to marry a beautiful black women one day, but my opinions are formulated by my experiences and being someone that attends school in the Atlanta University Center, boy have I seen/experienced a FEW things first hand eye witness...

To those women that demand so much out of us, and expect us to have everything together/laid out in our lives I ask only one question "what do you really bring to the table?"

hopefully the answer isn't just "myself" because quiet frankly when you meet a black man that has his life in order and is doing things, that's not going to be enough

-Tony

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1 comment:

a.monet said...

Soo I feel what you are saying but
not completely. From the perspective
of a female, taking care of your man
is never an issue. That is a rule
unspoken. The question becomes is that
man worthy of me taking care of him.
So many times the man expects this
nurturing spirit without putting in
the work. Buying me nice things and
spending money on me is irrelevant.Just
as respect is earned, so is the gift
of being nurtured.